Comments on: 99 Ways to Daily Show Love to Your Husband http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/2008/02/05/99-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/ The Life & Times of Jack-Evan and Family Thu, 27 Jan 2011 02:40:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Jennifer http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/2008/02/05/99-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-234 Jennifer Wed, 25 Nov 2009 23:17:29 +0000 http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/99-top-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-234 Thank you so much for publishing this wonderful list! I have bookmarked it as one of my favorites and I read over it often. Happy Thanksgiving! Jennifer Thank you so much for publishing this wonderful list! I have bookmarked it as one of my favorites and I read over it often. Happy Thanksgiving!
Jennifer

]]> By: Tiffany http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/2008/02/05/99-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-233 Tiffany Tue, 16 Jun 2009 16:06:35 +0000 http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/99-top-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-233 I have to say.... I agree with Lisa whole heartedly. There are so many ways to connect with your husband that aren't just through (dare I say it???) SEX. If you can't give the whole kit and caboodle, do something! And in response to what Anne said, if your husband isn't intelligent enought to figure out that after a C section you shouldn't be having sex for several weeks that's either his ignorance or your inability to keep him informed. I am 5 months pregnant and whether I have a C section or not, my husband is fully aware that for at least a month he isn't going to be getting exactly what he's used to. I, unfortunately, think this is why so many marriages suffer at the hands of infidelity. Its not saying you have to give it up to him every night, or in the reverse that he has to give it to you every night. Its saying that you two need to connect on a deep level often. Maybe that isn't sex for you.... I know it is in our house, but we are young (25 and 27) and our hormones rage like we are teenagers sometimes. But... I have never told him no (save for the time that you mentioned during "that time of the month," and men understand that... lord knows they hear about it often enough). But if you can't keep yourself looking decent for your husband and he doesn't take care of himself for you, then neither one of you are going to end up happy. Not only will you feel better about yourself, you won't be constantly wondering what's up in his head. I've had a really hard time with pregnancy simply due to being petrified he wouldn't find me as attractive... That isn't the case of course. But I diligently watch myself to make sure I am staying healthy for him, and for the sake of my unborn son. Baby Ryder will always know how much his parents love each other, and I can't wait for his father to show him how to be a good husband right from the start. My husband and I did not have good examples growing up for how marriage was supposed to be. My parents spent nights fighting in front of my brother and I, my mother was unfaithful, and somehow they muddled through it and are still together. Brandon's dad left before he could remember him, the man he calls father cheated on his mother and subsequently left his family, but he finally has a good step father who sets an example of how to treat women. If nothing else, we know what NOT to do, and we don't. We don't fight. We get upset, but we talk thru things together. We weren't trying to have little Ryder, but from the moment we found out he was on his way, we have loved him and made every effort to get ourselves straightened out for him. This may be a drawn out list of how things go in my world, but we are equal, and I still do all the things listed by Lisa. Brandon takes care of me, and I take care of him. I also take care of myself for him, and for me. If you don't have enough respect for yourself to take care of you, then why should he want to take care of you monetarily and emotionally? Its just something to think about, and to my point... Lisa, thanks for a great list. I have to say…. I agree with Lisa whole heartedly. There are so many ways to connect with your husband that aren’t just through (dare I say it???) SEX. If you can’t give the whole kit and caboodle, do something! And in response to what Anne said, if your husband isn’t intelligent enought to figure out that after a C section you shouldn’t be having sex for several weeks that’s either his ignorance or your inability to keep him informed. I am 5 months pregnant and whether I have a C section or not, my husband is fully aware that for at least a month he isn’t going to be getting exactly what he’s used to.

I, unfortunately, think this is why so many marriages suffer at the hands of infidelity. Its not saying you have to give it up to him every night, or in the reverse that he has to give it to you every night. Its saying that you two need to connect on a deep level often. Maybe that isn’t sex for you…. I know it is in our house, but we are young (25 and 27) and our hormones rage like we are teenagers sometimes. But… I have never told him no (save for the time that you mentioned during “that time of the month,” and men understand that… lord knows they hear about it often enough). But if you can’t keep yourself looking decent for your husband and he doesn’t take care of himself for you, then neither one of you are going to end up happy. Not only will you feel better about yourself, you won’t be constantly wondering what’s up in his head. I’ve had a really hard time with pregnancy simply due to being petrified he wouldn’t find me as attractive… That isn’t the case of course. But I diligently watch myself to make sure I am staying healthy for him, and for the sake of my unborn son.

Baby Ryder will always know how much his parents love each other, and I can’t wait for his father to show him how to be a good husband right from the start. My husband and I did not have good examples growing up for how marriage was supposed to be. My parents spent nights fighting in front of my brother and I, my mother was unfaithful, and somehow they muddled through it and are still together. Brandon’s dad left before he could remember him, the man he calls father cheated on his mother and subsequently left his family, but he finally has a good step father who sets an example of how to treat women. If nothing else, we know what NOT to do, and we don’t. We don’t fight. We get upset, but we talk thru things together. We weren’t trying to have little Ryder, but from the moment we found out he was on his way, we have loved him and made every effort to get ourselves straightened out for him.

This may be a drawn out list of how things go in my world, but we are equal, and I still do all the things listed by Lisa. Brandon takes care of me, and I take care of him. I also take care of myself for him, and for me. If you don’t have enough respect for yourself to take care of you, then why should he want to take care of you monetarily and emotionally? Its just something to think about, and to my point… Lisa, thanks for a great list.

]]> By: Jack's Mommy (Lisa) http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/2008/02/05/99-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-232 Jack's Mommy (Lisa) Mon, 19 Jan 2009 05:44:44 +0000 http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/99-top-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-232 Hello :) I'm sorry you chose to be offended. This list is not a requirement or list of "job duties" one must perform. Nor is it an invitation to be a doormat. It is merely various ways a wife can "show love" to her husband instead of just paying lipservice with those 3 often abused words "I love you". I have been married for nearly 3 years now. The first year of marriage was a nightmare for me - I was an only child raised in a household that catered to me. I had never as much as <em>boiled water </em>before my honeymoon, had no chores, didn't do my own laundry, and didn't even know where the washing machine was...much less have to wash someone ELSE's filthy socks. Although I *thought* I knew it all when I married, I was terribly mistaken. I realized soon I knew nothing about maintaining a loving, kind, <em>respectful </em>long-lasting marriage in today's society. I learned that in love, humility, kindness, devotion, and respect go a long way. This list is about doing away with the "me, me, me" attitude that many women have and showing love to their husbands in ways men do not expect. My husband and I are equals in every way, and he has never demanded or required any of these things from me. And he knows that if he ever did, I would tell him strait up where to go too (my temper and mouth was something I had a HARD time adjusting when I first married). Women do not have it hard because they choose to treat men they love with various little shows of devotion - <em>women have it hard when they bow down to brutal men who demand them to be slaves.</em> May I ask for a list of ways you show love daily to your own husband? I may learn some new ideas. :) Hello :)
I’m sorry you chose to be offended. This list is not a requirement or list of “job duties” one must perform. Nor is it an invitation to be a doormat. It is merely various ways a wife can “show love” to her husband instead of just paying lipservice with those 3 often abused words “I love you”.

I have been married for nearly 3 years now. The first year of marriage was a nightmare for me – I was an only child raised in a household that catered to me. I had never as much as boiled water before my honeymoon, had no chores, didn’t do my own laundry, and didn’t even know where the washing machine was…much less have to wash someone ELSE’s filthy socks. Although I *thought* I knew it all when I married, I was terribly mistaken. I realized soon I knew nothing about maintaining a loving, kind, respectful long-lasting marriage in today’s society.

I learned that in love, humility, kindness, devotion, and respect go a long way.

This list is about doing away with the “me, me, me” attitude that many women have and showing love to their husbands in ways men do not expect.

My husband and I are equals in every way, and he has never demanded or required any of these things from me. And he knows that if he ever did, I would tell him strait up where to go too (my temper and mouth was something I had a HARD time adjusting when I first married).

Women do not have it hard because they choose to treat men they love with various little shows of devotion – women have it hard when they bow down to brutal men who demand them to be slaves.

May I ask for a list of ways you show love daily to your own husband? I may learn some new ideas. :)

]]> By: LL http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/2008/02/05/99-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-231 LL Mon, 19 Jan 2009 04:18:43 +0000 http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/99-top-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-231 I'm sorry to say, I find this list to be very offensive. I don't consider myself a huge feminist, but in my home, my husband and I are equals. I do not feel the need to "keep up my appearance" for him -- I do that for myself -- or have a hot meal on the table for him everyday, expecially since we both work. And I will certainly tell him "not tonight" if I don't feel well -- or in the mood for that matter. My husband is my equal, not my master! No wonder women have it so hard!!! I’m sorry to say, I find this list to be very offensive. I don’t consider myself a huge feminist, but in my home, my husband and I are equals. I do not feel the need to “keep up my appearance” for him — I do that for myself — or have a hot meal on the table for him everyday, expecially since we both work. And I will certainly tell him “not tonight” if I don’t feel well — or in the mood for that matter. My husband is my equal, not my master! No wonder women have it so hard!!!

]]> By: Jack's Mommy (Lisa) http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/2008/02/05/99-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-230 Jack's Mommy (Lisa) Wed, 29 Oct 2008 12:59:09 +0000 http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/99-top-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-230 Anne » The point of "never say not tonight" was an encouragement to women to be willing to find ways to be intimate with the man you love, and don't make always go around making excuses. It was directed at all of those times when us women simply "don't feel like it". In pop culture, it is widely known that the words "not tonight" from a woman is usually NOT really justified - and is done more often than should be. It was not an attempt to excuse a man from taking his pleasure through force when a something is wrong medically. During the last 2 months of my pregnancy and the first 2 months after birth we had to abstain from normal intimacy because of complications - but I did find other ways of showing my husband he was still loved. Anne » The point of “never say not tonight” was an encouragement to women to be willing to find ways to be intimate with the man you love, and don’t make always go around making excuses. It was directed at all of those times when us women simply “don’t feel like it”. In pop culture, it is widely known that the words “not tonight” from a woman is usually NOT really justified – and is done more often than should be.

It was not an attempt to excuse a man from taking his pleasure through force when a something is wrong medically. During the last 2 months of my pregnancy and the first 2 months after birth we had to abstain from normal intimacy because of complications – but I did find other ways of showing my husband he was still loved.

]]> By: Anne http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/2008/02/05/99-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-229 Anne Wed, 29 Oct 2008 05:24:57 +0000 http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/99-top-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-229 Never say "Not tonight?"...what if you had a c-section a week ago and the stitches are still in? Or it's not a good time of the month and she doesn't feel comfortable about that? There are husbands who insist on their marital rights come what may. Christian husbands, even. Never is a pretty unforgiving word and assumes that a husband is always considerate of his wife. That's not always the case. Thankfully my husband is not like that, but I know at least one who is. And he preaches on Sundays. Never say “Not tonight?”…what if you had a c-section a week ago and the stitches are still in? Or it’s not a good time of the month and she doesn’t feel comfortable about that? There are husbands who insist on their marital rights come what may. Christian husbands, even. Never is a pretty unforgiving word and assumes that a husband is always considerate of his wife. That’s not always the case. Thankfully my husband is not like that, but I know at least one who is. And he preaches on Sundays.

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]]> By: Rachel http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/2008/02/05/99-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-227 Rachel Thu, 23 Oct 2008 11:31:48 +0000 http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/99-top-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-227 Please accept my sincere apologies. Thank you for your comment and correction. I'm still learning about what is appropriate and what isn't in the blogging world. This was an AWESOME post and greatly encouraging to me as a wife. Thank you for sharing. Sincerely, Rachel <abbr><em><abbr><em>Rachels last blog post..<a href="http://togodbethegloryhomemaking.blogspot.com/2008/10/top-99-ways-to-silently-say-i-love-you.html" rel="nofollow">Top 99 Ways to Silently Say I Love You to Your Husband</a></em></abbr></em></abbr> Please accept my sincere apologies. Thank you for your comment and correction. I’m still learning about what is appropriate and what isn’t in the blogging world. This was an AWESOME post and greatly encouraging to me as a wife. Thank you for sharing.

Sincerely,
Rachel

Rachels last blog post..Top 99 Ways to Silently Say I Love You to Your Husband

]]> By: Lisa (Jack's Mommy) http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/2008/02/05/99-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-226 Lisa (Jack's Mommy) Sat, 05 Jul 2008 07:14:40 +0000 http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/99-top-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-226 flechere » I couldn't list a man's list here..it would take up too much space. :-D flechere » I couldn’t list a man’s list here..it would take up too much space. :-D

]]> By: flechere http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/2008/02/05/99-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-225 flechere Thu, 03 Jul 2008 18:19:14 +0000 http://littlejackscorner.mrscoles.com/99-top-ways-to-daily-show-love-to-your-husband/#comment-225 One more question? What are considered ways of giving your husband support? One more question?

What are considered ways of giving your
husband support?

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